A Free Printable · Big Feelings

The Calm-Down Toolkit

When a feeling gets huge and nobody can remember what to do, this is the page. The in-the-moment tools from the book, the ones your child can run when they are flooded.

Tashi Kit Ren

What is in the toolkit

The hardest moment happens fast, when a feeling gets huge and everyone forgets what to do. This is the one page for exactly that.

The Pause

Name it, breathe it, then choose. The one move that works on every big feeling.

A tool for anger

The breath and the fist-squeeze that come before you say anything.

A tool for worry and overwhelm

What to do when it is all too much at once.

A tool for the social feelings

Left out, embarrassed, jealous, and how to move through them.

Get the Free Calm-Down Toolkit

One printable page of in-the-moment tools your child can run when a feeling floods them. Practice the moves when everyone is calm, so they are ready when it counts. It is free, and it takes ten seconds to grab.

  • The Pause, and a tool for each big feeling
  • Kid-readable, made to keep where they will see it
  • A short note for parents on how to use it

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The toolkit is the quick version. The book is the whole thing.

Big Feelings, Real Tools teaches your kid the whole picture: what a big feeling really is, how to name it, the pause that stops a meltdown, and a real tool for anger, worry, overwhelm, and the hard social feelings. Written for ages 8 to 12, in a way they actually want to read.

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